Louise Goss once said, “(I hope) everybody would begin to grasp this notion that it’s the child first, music second, and only third is the piano.”
“How To Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk” serves as a powerful reminder that we are teaching the child first. It explains how to do this better, and why this is so important.
From the authors: “Just by reading this book you’ve asked a great deal of yourself. There have been new principles to absorb, new skills to put into practice, new patterns to learn, and old patterns to unlearn. With so much to sort out and make your own, it’s sometimes hard not to lose sight of the larger picture. So once again, for the last time, let’s take a look at what this method of communication is all about.”
Practicing the skills in this book will help us to:
improve our communication with children (and adults, too!)
develop greater sensitivity towards others’ emotions
express our negative feelings genuinely, yet constructively
respect the needs of our students
respect our own needs
find ways for children to become independent, empathetic, and responsible
I have found that reading the book little by little over a longer period has allowed me time to absorb and process the principles presented in each chapter. But, it does take practice to think on our feet and implement these strategies in real time. The authors describe using role-playing in their workshops with parents. Acting out scenarios with our colleagues could be such a valuable way for us to practice these strategies in the context of piano lessons. Watching video of our own teaching, or even just writing a brief reflection after a lesson, could be other ways to become more fluent with incorporating these strategies in our teaching.
How has this book affected your teaching? Would you recommend it to others? I look forward to your feedback in the comments section. Thanks for reading along!